I would like to take this moment, in the middle of my Sunday lull, to address a comment from yesterday. I’m going to address it in a sideways manner, however. Although I expect others to be direct, I’m in no way direct in the way I think. To be fair, I try to be direct, but generally deluge people with information, instead. If I’m paying attention, rather than being my usual unaware self, I notice the glassy eyes of the people I’m conversing with. Sadly, I can’t see your glassy eyes and, because of that, have tended to write in the same manner I would speak. I will attempt, then, to be direct in a sideways direction and avoid my secondary mode of attack: rhetoric.
Due to Vox Day’s linking to my blog yesterday, my hits went through the roof. I’m the type of blogger who attracts forty readers a day if I’m on top of my game, so this was a pleasant surprise to me. I wasn’t, however, surprised to find that one of Vox Day’s readers homed in on my biblical patriarchy tag and left me a comment pertaining to that subject. Aside from the problems with reading a comment typed on a blackberry, I had no trouble with the content of the comment, but it left me contemplating, not only the reactionary doctrines of Christians these days, but the reactionary philosophies of men. I’m not going to write about Christian patriarchy right now; I’ve already done as much of that as I want to here, here, and here. Instead, I’d like to address the concept of the alpha male.
I’m not the enemy, as one of Vox Day’s followers called me. I’m a sceptic. I’m especially sceptical of men who waste time in reactionary rather than in fix-it or fight-for-it positions. Both men and women will waste precious energy being reactionaries, but it’s a great irony when eponymous alpha males spin their wheels reacting against the societal construct and, subsequently, fail to change it. You must be aware that the feminist movement wouldn’t have fully succeeded–the movement as we know it today–without the backing of alpha men who could predict the results of it. Pit men and women against each other with affirmative action, etc., and you will divide and conquer a society without having to shout about it. The truth is hidden in plain sight, as it were.
Back up a moment. For those of you who know me, let me assure you I haven’t changed my ideology one bit in recent times. I’m not at all claiming to be against feminism. I’m a full-fledged Enlightenment feminist, willing to support the dignity of women being who they are, and their right to educate and support themselves as the need or desire arises. But, at the same time, I recognize what history has taught us: that large and in-charge male rule is natural law. Because of their strength and aggression, men have risen to the top and have remained there, even in our egalitarian world.
Moving forward again, male rule may be natural law, but not all men possess the ability to be large and in-charge. Hence, we have the term alpha male, and we have a lot of frustrated men who want to be just that and, consequently, they create blogs where they can be ruler of the roost. They make noise and blame the feminist movement for their own weaknesses, which is the same kind of noise powerless women will make, except aimed in the opposite direction. No doubt, Virginia Woolf made noise, and she may have been right to do so. Perhaps, if somebody–a dead relative, maybe–had left her that one room of her own, she would have written better books. It wasn’t actually her fault, you see.
My point is this: real alpha men don’t shout on the internet in reactionary rants. They’re far too busy actually being in charge. In fact, I know a man like that, if I could only remember….oh, yeah, my husband. As I have a difficult time ceasing and desisting from analyzing and defining, I informed him one day that he was an alpha male by stealth. He immediately denied it, as many will do when their tactics are unveiled. And then he agreed that, yes, he took control of what he wanted to control without fuss. But I don’t want or need to control everything, he quietly reassured me. Of course he’s going to insist he doesn’t want that, as long as we’re getting everything out into the open. After all, he wouldn’t want to lose his charm.